XX/XY
XX/XY
R | 11 January 2002 (USA)
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When two college students, Sam and Thea, meet Coles at a party, their mutual attraction is immediate, leading to a passionate and awkward night together, and the onset of an intensely charged bond. As they continue to push the sexual boundaries of their friendship, however, they are tested by Sam and Coles' incipient romance and Thea's increasing recklessness, until the relationship dissolves amid a cloud of fear, resentment and mistrust. Eight years later they reunite. An animator for a high-profile ad agency, Coles now lives with Claire, his girlfriend of five years. Thea is happily married to Miles, with whom she owns a flourishing restaurant. And Sam has just returned to Manhattan after working in London where she recently broke off her engagement. Yet upon reconnecting, the three are drawn back into the complicated dynamic that defined their relationship from the start and are forced to confront the true meaning of commitment and love.

Reviews
LouHomey From my favorite movies..
Plustown A lot of perfectly good film show their cards early, establish a unique premise and let the audience explore a topic at a leisurely pace, without much in terms of surprise. this film is not one of those films.
Nicole I enjoyed watching this film and would recommend other to give it a try , (as I am) but this movie, although enjoyable to watch due to the better than average acting fails to add anything new to its storyline that is all too familiar to these types of movies.
Francene Odetta It's simply great fun, a winsome film and an occasionally over-the-top luxury fantasy that never flags.
hall895 Perhaps the most damning thing you can say about a movie is that it stirs no feelings in you. If you absolutely hate a movie, well at least you feel something. XX/XY denies you even that. There's nothing worth hating. But there's certainly nothing to love either. There's just nothing, an emptiness. The story doesn't engage, the characters inspire no reaction. It's very bland, rather monotonous and sorely lacking in entertainment value.XX/XY is the story of a young man, Coles, played by Mark Ruffalo with a silly mustache. Coles meets young college student Sam. That would be a girl Sam by the way, played by Maya Strange. And Sam has a wild child roommate, Thea, played by Kathleen Robertson. Right after the trio meet they make their way to the bedroom for an exceedingly awkward threesome. They end up in a weird sort of friendship with Coles and Sam a couple and Thea floating around off to the side. And then Coles, who is at heart a jerk, does some jerky things and the whole thing implodes.It is now years later. You can tell it's years later because Coles no longer has a mustache. Now he's in a long-term relationship with a woman named Claire. They're not married but they may as well be, that's the type of relationship they have. And then out of the clear blue sky Sam shows up and you can guess what happens from there. Jerky Coles decides he's wanted Sam all along. Wild child Thea re-enters the picture too, although she's not wild anymore, actually settled down and showing some signs of maturity. Maturity is clearly not something Coles possesses. He acts like a spoiled child and screws things up all over again. Sam's not much better. Poor Claire is there to serve as the aggrieved party, someone for you to feel sorry for. But again this movie really fails to make you feel anything. The key characters are unsympathetic, but not so much so that you can muster up any hate for them. The movie just sits there, nothing grabs you. It's all very predictable, it's not all very entertaining. The best thing you can say about the movie is that the performances are pretty good. It's a fine cast, they just have no material to work with. The focus is on the trio from the first part of the film but if there's any truly memorable moment in the whole film it belongs to Claire. She has a moment where she states the truth about all that has gone on, bluntly and honestly, something nobody else is willing to do. It's a strong moment for the character and for actress Petra Wright. But the movie can't even let us have that moment. It cheapens it, essentially nullifies it, later on by having Claire do something she quite simply should not do. In a smarter, better movie she would do no such thing. Here it's the final unsatisfying piece in an unsatisfying film.
Michael O'Keefe Provocative, romantic and real steamy. After Coles(Mark Ruffalo)spies Sam(Maya Strange)on the bus, he meets her at a college party. Coles wants to know Sam better; but Sam wants her close friend Thea(Kathleen Robertson)to join in a three-way sexual exploration...any and every man's fantasy. Boundaries are pushed, lines are crossed and emotions accelerated. Ten years later, the three meet again and each has to decide what to do about their past actions colliding with their current life styles. Thea is married and with her husband owns a successful restaurant. Coles is a rising star in the animation/advertising world and lives with his girlfriend Claire(Petra Wright)of five years. Then there is Sam returning from working in London with an off and on again boyfriend. When Coles runs into Sam, the two rekindle old fireworks. Thea plans a get together for the three college friends/lovers and their significant other at her home on the beach. Coles decides to tell Claire that he is still in love with Sam. Before things can get ugly; Sam arrives late to the meeting expounding on her quickie marriage to her Brit boyfriend. The once carefree Coles has no real choice but to sink into depression. Ruffalo, Robertson and Strange are excellent in their minefield threesome. I just couldn't take my attention away from Robertson. You can't help but have concern for the trio. That's what makes for a good movie...caring about the characters. This rated R flick may not be your cup of organic tea; but it sure sustained my interest.
wmcr13 This is a story about the high personal cost of indecision. The story unfolds slowly, but this is necessary to develop the characters fully so that we can come to understand their wants and needs firsthand. Coles (Mark Ruffalo) is an artist who can't seem to make a real decision in his life and, as a result, eventually loses the only woman he ever really loved to another, more decisive man. He learns too late that "no decision is a decision". The viewer, likewise, does not realize in the beginning that Coles' indecisiveness is going to hurt him badly, and others too, since he seems to recover well several times from his errors in judgment concerning his love life. He is a lovable young man and, Sam, the woman he meets and falls in love with, forgives and forgets his many mistakes in their relationship, until one day she has been hurt too much and leaves his life for several years. Coles goes on with his life and begins living with another woman, Claire, whom he seems to love. But when Sam returns years later and bumps into him, their love for each other reignites with its original passion, and he is faced with a crucial decision: choose Sam and break off his seemingly strong relationship with Claire, or stay with Claire and let Sam go on with her life. Again, he cannot make a decision, and so circumstances decide his fate, rather than he himself. Not only does he lose Sam and a future with her (she marries a man named Jonathon suddenly), but he also loses Claire's love and respect, since Claire figures out that he loves Sam. The viewer can feel Coles' agony when he discovers that Sam has gotten married and may even pity him, but at the same time the viewer cannot ignore that Coles chose this outcome for himself simply by not choosing any other outcome.
richardv-johnson From many comments about this film and the similar Closer, one would think all the characters were reckless libertine hedonists. They're not, they're unsuccessful serial monogamists like most of us in the modern western world. This one doesn't have the Oscar Wilde/Noel Coward wit or shocking vulgarity of Closer, but it does have amazing true-to-life performances, especially from Petra Wright (who has an aristocratic beauty similar to Mimi Rogers in Someone to Watch Over Me), Kathleen Robertson, who previously had a field day as an innocent bigamist in Gregg Araki's Splendor, Maya Strange (not Strange), who displays a vulnerability much like Natasha Gregson Wagner in some other independent films (what happened to her?). And of course Mark Ruffalo, an undecided everyman for our times, like the dog in Aesop who loses his bone because he thinks he sees a better one. And as someone remarked, this is definitely Eric Rohmer territory. Excellent writing, cinematography, and use of music, and not one redundant line or wasted shot.