TrueJoshNight Truly Dreadful Film

Ploydsge just watch it!

pointyfilippa The movie runs out of plot and jokes well before the end of a two-hour running time, long for a light comedy.

Brendon Jones It’s fine. It's literally the definition of a fine movie. You’ve seen it before, you know every beat and outcome before the characters even do. Only question is how much escapism you’re looking for.

PopSixSquish Not gonna lie: NEVER have I had such difficulty watching a movie. The experience was emotionally devastating and actually physically painful. Never would I have dreamed I could see a film worse than Steel Magnolias, Beaches, Fried Green Tomatoes, and My Girl combined...and yet here I am, having just seen this one. I am not okay. I am utterly destroyed. My ginger excuse for a soul has been crushed, wrecked, shattered, pulverized (I wish I were exaggerating what a mess this made of me.)The power to have this effect derives from the leading lady; Carice is truly a phenomenal actress. I've become a huge fan of hers. She makes you believe everything. She makes you feel EVERYTHING. Deeply. She can say SO MUCH without even speaking a word. She catapults this script, which is basically an automatic recipe for "heartbreaking," to absolutely heart-annihilating. She herself has a singular beauty as well as a natural aura of purity, innocence, and goodness that helps with parts such as this. (That there's still so much more tremendous talent within that teeny-tiny frame of hers--musically, for instance--could almost be infuriating were she not so lovable.) Seriously...I mean, Carmen's frequent vomiting had me feeling nauseous--NOT because I'm squeamish about that (I'm not; the needles are what normally bother me), but due to the empathy for her. Heck, the whole final third or so of the movie had me feeling that way (and, needless to say, just sobbing uncontrollably.) The premise is nearly unbelievable with this casting and writing, actually. If this Carmen is your wife, how on Earth does the desire to be with anyone else ever even enter into your head at all? If she falls gravely ill, how is your only thought not to be her constant loving support & caretaker as you fight the disease together with everything you've got? The main plotline here is harrowing enough; the secondary one that involves Stijn running back and forth from her to a club to another woman...it's incredibly maddening, and altogether it's murder. He never completely abandons her, but you can't stop thinking furiously and desperately of how much better she and their daughter deserve. Even trying to look at it as "He can't handle the torment and needs to escape with someone who isn't sick," I cannot begin to justify his behavior--particularly since he was *always* a disgusting adulterer. From the very start, she deserved someone with the loyalty, integrity, fortitude, and pure love to stay by her side through thick and thin. He was simply unworthy of this extremely over-tolerant woman. That he always came back to her (for as long as he could) doesn't excuse his cheating. It merely makes him a somewhat better husband than he could've been. The whole thing hurts so much it's hard to think about.Would I watch this again? Oh man. More like, "Could I bear to?" Just thinking about it gets me going all over again. So if I wanted to torture myself that way, I'd have to gather all my strength...I know! My rewrite of this film will include a new role--that of a close friend for poor Carmen, who will berate that dirtbag for his adulterous ways (Carmen may accept it but she does not--especially while her friend is ill.) This person will be what Carmen deserved, bringing her to and from the hospital and staying with her and taking care of her and making sure *everything* possible is done to save her, as well as making sure Carmen knows how loved she is. Of course it ends with remission and finding a new, faithful, totally committed man who knows how to love somebody and is worthy of her. ^^ Maybe Stijn learns something from the experience and becomes a changed man; maybe not. Yay! There we go. Good stuff. I can feel my soul reconstituting as we speak.(Also, did I include spoilers? Well, better safe than sorry, right?)

jill de schrijver I liked this movie. No, like most, I didn't like the protagonist, but it was nevertheless interesting to watch how a narcissist would portray himself while betraying the people who care for him with his shallowness. I understand the frustration and remarks by other reviewers regarding the shallow portrayal of the wife and prop-like use of the daughter Luna. But that is exactly how narcissists use and look at people in their world.Was this a story about love? The narcissist tries to spin it that way, by remembering over-the-top romantic adventures with his wife Carmen: the playful nude pick-nick in the farm fields behind the back garden; the Bora Bora holiday; the Carpe Diem traveling tour once she knows she has little time left to live. However, the protagonist reveals early from the get go what he truly cares about: control; which is exactly what personality disordered people want out of any relation - control. All his actions underline how little he actually knows about love: he wants to get married very rapidly (which sounds romantic but has little to do with loving someone); he cheats whenever he can; he starts an actual affair with another woman because he wants sex with a healthy woman who can adore him, instead of spending his actual time with his wife who's wrapped up in her fight with cancer; his narcissistic rages; his breaking of his promises; and to actually bring his new victim to the funeral of his dead wife.A narcissist cannot bond or feel real empathy for anyone else but themselves, although they will try to appear as if they do. Hence the over-the-top romantic outings, which actually feel shallow, and the appearance of being empathic when they wish to sell themselves - to Rose, his latest conquest, but also the viewer (or reader). Hence also the possible frustration over the distance that remains between Carmen fighting for her life against cancer and the viewer - the narcissist cannot truly empathize with his wife, and he's the one telling the story after all.I give the protagonist credit to being brutally honest about the cancer process, his womanizing and affair and not leaving Carmen to die alone... And yet I also feel as if the brutal cancer portrayal is part of his pity play - as if I'm supposed to understand it's no wonder he goes running in between the thighs of a healthy woman; and see what a good guy he is after all, since he could have left Carmen and move on with Rose... That's like saying: he could have been a worse bastard... but it doesn't take away the fact that he's still a bastard. And I suspect his dying wife's words of how grateful she is to have been married to him might even be a narcissistic embellishment - my wife forgave me and loved me, so I'm not so bad after all! I actually did feel empathy with Carmen, exactly because she was portrayed in such a factual way. I felt empathy by myself, exactly because the protagonist lacked it so thoroughly - he was incapable of telling the story with empathy, and that made me feel more for her even.As for Rose and Stijn living a happy ending? No chance! As if he'll ever stop cheating and not start an affair with another woman as soon as Rose fails to give him his narcissistic supply.

Motherspot Yak! This is the awful product of a talentless guy who is very successful here in the Netherlands..successful as in:'making millions of money with utterly talentless and silly crappy productions that are so well received by the Dutch , very receivable to manipulation, Dutch audiences.... Time after time i am wondering how is it possible that actors who are considered serious here in the lowlands lend themselves to appear in the crappy nonsense that is being made here and presented as blockbusters. This film holds nothing!!! no good acting ,not a bearable script , no moving story , no (real) drama...and before everything else no originality...but that's something that állas , hardly any Dutch mainstream movie can be accused of. (why in Godsname draw Gijs Scholten van Achgat and Pierre Bokma out of the cupboard to appear as doctors, and Why in Gods name do they accept this meager contributions to this nausea-creating work of utterly non interesting bad in every-way 'film '? shame on them !This 'film'was horror ! made by an utterly talentless 'film'maker.ps.why waste a crappy load of money in some vague scenes at the most cliché-Holiday paradise on earth, Borra Borra? shame on you Reinout Oerlemans , for y'r terrible useless waste of money !!!please keep yourself far away the world of movies as a director anyway!!! (just stick to y'r money business....please...)am i glad i did'nt buy a theatre ticket for this...

tcs-victory This is the movie of the famous Dutch book 'komt een vrouw bij de dokter'. The book describes the true events that the author (Kluun) experienced when his wive is diagnosed with breast cancer that eventually takes her life.First of all, this movie is as dull as a one-in-a-thousand soap operas on TV. Second, the main character is unsympathetic. You cannot make a movie around someone you cannot identify with. You can try, but only few directors can pull off such a thing. Reinout Oerlemans surely can not.The movie tries to be dramatic, but never even comes close to real drama. Its almost slapstick. For example the scene where Carmed hears about her illness from the doctor conveys no drama or emotion at all! Its also rushed into the movie. No character built-up, no nothing.The main character is a person you cannot have sympathy for. His wive gets cancer, he can't handle it and runs away. He cheated on his wife when she was still healthy, so he surely cheats on his wife when she gets sick. He is an asshole, but his wife is even more stupid because she likes him no matter what.The movie only revolves around Stijn, his wife Carmen is actually a card-board persona that has no depth at all. All her decisions remain unexplained, yet she is the one dealing with a cheating husband, and cancer. We must make notice here that the book only tells Stijns version of the story. Carmen is dead so we cannot ask her anything. Kluun (the author of the book) cleverly left out all that is interesting.In the end of the movie Carmen dies and I liked it. She deserved not to live in my opinion. Stijn deserves his wife dying on him, because he never really cared about her in the first place. His wife dead, makes sure he cannot harm her even more. He never loved his wife, I can tell you that. The author even tries to make money out of her death by writing a self-indulged book and trying to sell his whining and his childish behavior. This man never deserved his book being turned into a proper film, I am glad it didn't.I know people that have been in the same position as Stijn, and they did not behave like this animal in the first place. They did not write silly books trying to get the attention of the mass-public: "look me, I am pathetic. My wife has cancer, look me. Look me, my wife has cancer, I am pathetic, shall we have sex?".The only interesting parts in this movie were the sex-scenes. As traditional Dutch cinema describes, this movie contains a lot of unnecessary nude-scenes that funny enough contain a lot of breasts. Carice "Look my breasts" van Houten does what she does: flash her breasts, like she does in all her movies. Really weird. I hope they make a porn movie out of this one, because that version will automatically have more story-line than this 'work of art'.Instead of crying, I was laughing at the end of the movie. I was bored and was glad this movie was over. The book was better than the movie because it had a little more dept. The author however, in my opinion is a criminal that deserves none of all the attention he gets.